From Victim to Creator

From life-coach,  Michael Neill’s weekly newsletter……..

“Because one of the first things I work on with my clients is making the shift from victim to creator in their lives, they often become sensitive to the language they are using when they speak with me. “I should” becomes “I want to” (except for when they don’t); “I can’t” becomes “I haven’t”, except for when they do. Yet the goal of this little exercise isn’t so much to become more conscious of the language we are using to explain and describe and report on our lives – it is to facilitate the transformation of those lives.

For example, the other day a client I’ll call Dale said to me “Can you believe what’s going on with the economic stimulus package?” When I said I could, he said “I mean, it’s like both sides are putting scoring political points ahead of taking care of the country.” After nodding my head in agreement to this and a few more statements like it, I finally asked him what it was about the possible accuracy of his observation that was causing him to act like a victim of it. “What do you mean?” he asked. “Are you implying that I’m NOT a victim of this? After all, I didn’t create this – I don’t even have a mortgage. But my business is still suffering for it. If anyone’s a victim of this economy it’s me! ”   Continue reading

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Chicken or Egg

Life can be difficult. It has been said that God puts the solution alongside the problem. Does this really mean that we make life harder for ourselves than it need be?

Our usual reaction to life is one of maintaining our own importance and our own secure place in society. So too, we complicate our lives more and more with material possessions. Thirdly the noise from the world and our own incessant inner chatter distract us from a deeper listening.

This all calls for some well-practised virtues, but they must come from the heart, where Love resides.

At this point I ask myself, “Which comes first, the chicken or the egg?”

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